Aww I thought I had found a sugar friend close by :(
How is it finding SDs there? Its quite difficult up here…
GIRL why have I never come across your blog until now?! I'm a SB in alabama too I didn't think I would find anybody else who lives here! (Actually I'm from TN but I go to school in AL) if you don't mind me asking what city do you live in?:)
AWW yah!! I live in the Huntsville area..you?
Maybe my break was a good thing! I just did a search on SA and its a shitload of new members in Alabama!
Well, what booksvwould you recommend besides to obvious (ginie sayles, baje fletcher, leidra lawson, robert greene) stuff?
I also enjoyed Why Men Love Bitches and I read some body language books, the other authors you listed have been insightful as well. I watch old romance movies too, I like how women carried themselves back then. Just read, read and read and apply what you learned.
Oh and since you plan on free styling, you might come across some older women who will encourage you…befriend them! I have two friends that I met out and they are super resourceful :)
When you freestyle do you typically approach these men or do they approach you?
They approach me.
How long does it take to actually get cash from a pot you met freestyling? is he handing out cash on the first date or do you wait until a bond is established?
Every man is different. I don’t ask for it up front. I personally always use school at first, like I would say something about college books being so expensive and see if he offers up.
Unless you tell them up front that you want a sugar daddy and he agrees to it, then this can be a long process. It just varies. I’ve read alot of books on this too, you can find some cheap ones on amazon and balleralert.com is also a good source :)
Where I left off.
Before my long hiatus (I went back to dating an ex - terrible TERRIBLE), the last thing I posted was a pic of me and 1k.
I no longer see the POT. Actually I only met up with him twice and I basically took the money and ran. I feel bad for it and then again I don’t.
Our first date was at Greek restaurant and we discussed our arrangement. He seemed like a pretty nice guy, but he wanted to 1k a month. That’s not enough for me, he did say “we can start” at 1k however, but I lack patience.
After that he was out of town on business for a few weeks and he stopped by my apartment to talk. I never ever do that and I probably won’t again, nothing happened, but I really value my privacy.
While he was over, I was basically staring at the clock, counting down the minutes that this man had to be back at work. He didn’t do anything wrong and had nice conversation, but I just didn’t like him. He also talked about sex way too early. Thank goodness my friend called and I made up some lie and said that she was coming over. He handed me my allowance and left. A few weeks later he went out of town on business and when he came back he called constantly and left me an e-mail basically telling me that he knows my full name and knows where I live, blah blah blah. I never responded and he disappeared. You’re a “millionaire” what’s 1k equivalent to you, like a dollar? Besides he has a wife and kids, go sit down somewhere. I did feel bad about it at first, but thats just the nature of sugaring.
I wrote all this to say, that although I have been doing this for a long time, I have ways to go. To some girls what I did was totally of the norm. To some I should have made him my sugar daddy and hopefully he would raise the allowance. I don’t know everything and i’m just learning as I go. Overall, I just refuse to do anything that would make me look back and cringe at what I did for money.
Can you breakdown frestyling? Do you have business cards and hand them out or what? How do you get a regular man that you met in real life to agree to an arrangement?
Freestyling - That’s what girls call meeting POTs in real life? right.
Ok. Well thats my preferred method of choice and actually what has worked best for me. I tend to go to lounges, bars, parties and events where rich men are sure to be at. I make sure that I look up to par and play up my best assets, smile and look approachable and PUT AWAY YOUR CELLPHONE. I tend to go alone or bring only one friend. I have a habit of sniffing out money, but another way to find out possible candidates is to eavesdrop and find out who’s who. The main thing to do is be confident, flirty, mature and intriguing.
As far as allowances it doesn’t work the same way as it does on the sites. I wouldn’t advise asking someone flat out for a set allowance either in the beginning. The men that I have met out and about usually ask is there anything they can help you out with or is there anything you need, etc. Its kinda play by ear.
And I have thought about getting business cards, but honestly I don’t want any of my SD knowing too much about my real life.
I love you!! Mentor me maybe?
I’m way to inconsistent and moody to mentor and i’m no where near an expert. But you can ask me anything :)
